Why procrastinators love New Years

Well, if you are a fellow procrastinator like myself, you will definitely relate to this post…New Years is almost upon us, and I wanted to make sure I did this post before the change in years…because I have a feeling I might forget/laze out before writing it..

I love writing, but I also love procrastinating. In an almost viscous cycle of events for self-sabotage..it’s like the more we procrastinate, the more we love it. Love doing nothing.

The last few days before New Year’s, it the BEST time to procrastinate. The washing that needs to be done, the house that needs to be cleaned, the car that has an infestation of spiders (eek) and the weight that needs to be lost from that overindulgence of chocolate and sweets over Christmas season? I’ll do it next year! Why do we love this phrase? Because, Next year sounds so freaking far away! It won’t come that soon right? Tomorrow, Next week, Next Month…these sounds close and real, but next year? That only happens about 100 times in an average human (if you are lucky/unlucky to live that long). So many times I find myself putting things off, because NEXT YEAR sounds like a good time to start.

Supposedly, I have tricked myself into thinking that I  will wake up and suddenly want to and feel motivated to start studying…to start planning, saving and being more disciplined to go to the gym again… But, unfortunately for us procrastinators, I know too well…that that won’t be the case.

We got to, and can make a decision today (or tomorrow, or next week…) that we will do thing that we need to do. Because, next year is literally around the corner. :O

If we pile too many “resolutions, goals and tasks” to do “next year”, we will most likely feel overwhelmed with the sheer amount of things to do, we might end up doing nothing…but stressing out.

I hope every has Happy New Year! May you be safe, happy and get enough sleep for your soul.

Cheers to a year where we will (hopefully) procrastinate less.

Be Joy-filled.

 

Anyways, I will just reward myself for writing this post with a quick 30 minutes episodes of “Love at First Swipe-” BY Jinny Boy………….then I will get on with…….

Have yourself a melancholic Christmas

How many times did you say “Merry Christmas” to the people around you this year? Online, on cards and God forbid maybe IN PERSON. For the majority of the year we rarely seem to use the word Merry and then suddenly bam December hits us and we using that word like no tomorrow.

According to google, merry means ..

merry
/ˈmɛri/
adjective
cheerful and lively.
“the streets were dense with merry throngs of students”
synonyms: cheerful, cheery, in good spirits, high-spirited, blithe, bright, sunny, light-hearted, buoyant, bubbly, lively, carefree, without a care in the world, joyful, joyous, rejoicing, jolly, jocund, convivial, festive, mirthful, gleeful, happy, glad, laughing;

Well I ain’t the Grinch, but excuse me, why must we Cheerful and lively during this season?

Are we not allowed to be sick, sad and lonely during this time?

I bet you, there are people who hate Christmas…not only the grinch…but others. This time can represent a time where they realise they are alone, just like how singles hate Valentines day -because it is a remember that they are alone. Christmas is a bit worse, because it is a public holiday, there is nothing to do. Where you still have to work on Valentines Day, Christmas is like…is like the worst time to be alone… People ask you what your plans are? What are you going to do? Did you buy your presents yet?

…What is you don’t have family? Or friends? Or anyone to spend Christmas with?

What if you cannot afford to buy any gifts for those around you? You can’t afford to have a feast..because heck you don’t even have a place to stay.

Christmas is not always a Happy time.

It is more like a temporary fix.. where you can pretend all is well, but it actually isn’t.

So sorry for not spreading Christmas cheer this season, but spreading awareness…It ain’t always jolly good.

On a side note, I liken Christmas to be the birthday of Jesus..however often we forget to invite the birthday boy to our parties…so we hold empty parties , celebrating the birthday of someone who isn’t even present. We forgot to invite the main attraction.

Anyways,

Hope your Christmas was good, but if it wasn’t, that is okay too 🙂

Joy to the World~

Life without screens

I know I blab on and on about technology, so bear with me as I explore further the topic of technology and society.

Recently it has just occurred to me, what did people do..before they had phones, laptops and televisions?

Recently at work, there was a young girl and I asked her, “What will Santa get you for Christmas this year?”

She said, “A new phone case”.

I was momentarily shocked… What does a seven year old kid need a mobile phone for ?!?! I never had a phone until I was well into my 10th grade of high school …or something like that..

It is a little bit sad, that the generation growing up now are going to be permanently joined to their phones.

There will be so many skills that they will not have to learn anymore, because the phone and the screens can do it all.

Gone are those navigational road map books…GPS is instant and probably MUCH more safer than looking through a book. To be honest, I can’t even read a map if I tried. My phone GPS didn’t work the other day and I realised, I had no idea what were the name of the roads I had driven upon…thousands of times… We have become so reliant on technology, we cannot even tell the time anymore…If we don’t have a watch, a phone or some other screen telling us what day or time it is.

Wouldn’t it be funny, or cool if a glitch in the internet moved everyone 1000 years into the future and everyone would have thought they time travelled because all the technology has left forward into the future?

I was waiting (semi-patiently) for someone to arrive the other day…I thought to myself, if I didn’t have a phone on me, what would I be doing instead? Back in the days…when people were waiting..did they bring books? Newspapers? Cassettes?

Or did they just sit there and pay attention to what was happening around them? Before lights were invented, did people just go to sleep earlier when the sun had set?

So many things to think about..

We can’t even travel properly without technology..it would take days and days of travel to get to Adelaide to Melbourne,…yet now we can get there and back within an hour.

Gone are the days we can do things by ourselves, spell, calculate, read maps ..because we have technology is there.

But can technology replace the doctor by your bedside? The robotic person answering your emergency without emotion? The one that sings autotuned at your wedding?

Anyways, apologies for this rambling post.

My new laptop recently locked me out and malfunctioned, so I had to wait around apple shop for two hours getting it reformatted. Oh dear God, cannot even write properly without my beloved laptop.

Laptop is back and running…! I am hoping it won’t happen again 😦 This is my portal to the world that helps me to share my ideas and thoughts to the world and plus I cannot spell without my autocorrect.

Love and Joy this Christmas Season to you

The definition of Beauty

If a tree fell down and no one was around to see it, did it make a sound?

 

+I am not sure if I got that quote right, but the point that I am trying to make is…if there were no others around us to define beauty, would there be someone to decide whether something is beautiful or ugly?

 

Or is it a society created construct that is totally subjective. Who defined that a face lacking pimples, scars, birthmarks or deformed teeth is ugly?

Who said that a women with large breasts and a nice butt is sexy?

Why must guys have six packs instead of one backs to be hot?

What has society come to that we are all obsessed with our bodies?

There are plastic surgeons, orthodontists, stylists, make up artists, personal trainers and diet experts to all give us tips to make our body the best it could be possibly; according to standards set by society.

I am not saying these things are bad in itself…

I myself never smiled as a kid, because I hated how crooked my teeth was. I was so self-conscious about my teeth-I was adamant that no one would like me or think I was pretty because of my ugly teeth. So my parents invested a lot of money to set my teeth straight and gave me a smile.

In a way, these procedures for cosmetic procedure are costly, time-consuming and often painful. Having spent four years of my life with metal train tracks on my teeth, countless nights of pain after tightening of braces and soooo many mouth ulcers from the sharp wire that I swear the the evil orthodontist left there on purpose to punish me for being late to all my appointments.

Four years and $6000 for a smile? I still have a wire behind my teeth and I had to go back every year for orthodontic reviews (which I have avoided this year-since I’ve been not wearing my retainers). There are the retainers that you need to wear at night and occasionally get new ones to be made.

There was the psychological pain of it all..being self-conscious of pieces of food that are displayed for people to see…and the chewing gum that you weren’t supposed to have ..getting stuck.

ANYWAYS, what was I trying to say?

Yes, society, especially the female species…seem to spend a great deal of time on trying to make themselves look more beautiful by the standards of this world. Perfect smile, shiny hair, blemish free skin -if this is not possible-a heavily caked face, a skinny body and a nice ass and maybe some push up bra or…if they have money breast implants.

 

Why are we so obsessed with beauty? Why do we all judge each other on people’s looks?

I am guilty of this as well…is it something innate within us that associates beauty with other good traits like, manners, kindness…I don’t know.

I can’t seem to understand it… but isn’t it all subjective? Then how can we agree that a certain poster, singer or actor is beautiful and others aren’t?

Does love actually exist? Or are we just ensured and trapped by the fleeting beauty of the other? When it fade, we just stay with them anyways?

Does anyone like someone else for themselves and without caring about how they look like?

I remember watching a Korean youtube video of two couples that had literally a blind date.

They had a cloth between them when they met, so they were forced to learn about each other without seeing each other. What are your thoughts on this?

They were forced to get to know each other and not judge each other on how they looked.

If only interviews, jobs and real life was like this.

Who said those that aren’t considered beautiful in this world are not the super stars and idols in other worlds?

 

Perhaps those considered beautiful in this day and age, in the alternative universe was those who are looked down upon, frowned up and ostracised because their skin lacks pimples, because they are too SKINNY, because they are TOO FIT, because their hair is TOO shiny and not messy enough.

Anyway, that is my rant about beauty and how superficial it all is.

In our old age, does beauty even matter anymore?

How about we become deep people instead of shallow?

 

The art of lying

Have you ever thought why do people lie?

Why can’t they tell the truth?

Aren’t they worried that the truth will come out?

As someone that was brought up being taught ..sinning is bad! You will go to hell=…if you lie! If you look at someone lustfully ..You’ve already committed adultery! If you speak bad about one person..you are going to be in hell. No swearing..no rebelling. Live your life as if you were for Christ. etc etc.

I was shit scared to sin. I refrained myself from swearing, though I would swear in my head. I would pretend I was an angel, when I was not behind closed doors. I was busy putting on a mask, a face that said everything is good, everything is fine. I didn’t even realise what a lie my life had become.

Why do we lie?

Is it because facing reality is just too damn hard?

If we face reality, we realise that life is so damn unpredictable.

Maybe we unintentionally lie. We say things we don’t mean. We aim to be polite.

In the heat of the moment, two lovers promise each other that they will love the other forever.

One year later, one finds out the other lied. Because they left them. All alone.

People are fickle. Whether we intentionally lie with a purpose or not even being aware of it.

Humans were born as liars. No one taught us how to lie. It is our innate nature to deceive and perhaps it was due to evolution.

Maybe, telling a lie has saved someones life in the past and hence humans have evolutionalised to become the liars that they are today,

 

Look at our world leaders, politicians, famous actors or singers. They all have made and told great lies and deceived many.

But then again, who hasn’t ever told a lie?

Well obviously, I haven’t.  😉

On Technology

So it has been a very long time since I last bought a new laptop..I am not sure when it was..but it was over 4 years ago anyways…I ve only had two laptops prior and both of them are pretty much dead. . ..

The latest one prior to my new laptop is actually a hand me down from my younger brother…who decided to build a PC to support him in his efforts to become the worlds best dota player..or something like that.

 

I am simply loving my laptop..its the newest MacBook Air that came out this year…It feels so light…so slick..so shiny…thinking back to my first splurge in the laptop industry.. it was also pink…a back then popular “Sony Vaio” ..It was so in then..and I am not sure how I managed to afford it as a kid…I remember it was like $1699 some insane price…I ve never been really good at investing in technology..and either I buy really expensive shitty stuff that looks great..or I don’t want to spend and buy pieces of crap that break easily..and hence I waste a lot of money.

Anyways, two years ago…after being an avid fan of Android phones…I suddenly decided to try an iPhone..it was hard…Get a nicer and newer Android phone or get a really old generation of I phone? I took the gamble..I am not one to run after the newest technology..I wait until it is cheaper and then I decide to spend.

SOOO long story cut extremely short, I got my first every apple product! An iPhone 5s in 2016. LOLS yes I know it is very very old. But, so am I.

Anyways, I fell in love with its simplicity… it’s effectiveness, no nonsense simple to use and understand technology. No fancy shit. Just what it is. It doesn’t try to be the best. It KNOWs its the best. It is not insecure. Its a secure piece of technology.

I am now riding on the cloud…the Apple cloud and it is hard to go back. It is so convenient that everything that I upload on the cloud has become so easily accessible through the cloud sky technology.

Another aspect that I have heard that is great about Apple, is that they do not sell your information and impede in your privacy..as google does..apparently.. Well, recently in the news apparently the secret services will start to have access to all our encrypted messages…that is scary… it is probably already happening, but we didn’t know it.

 

What happened to privacy? Do we go back to sending letters or does every letter get read in the post office? Who knows?

 

isn’t funny how technology has changed so much in the last 10-20 years?

We were talking about it at work the other day, a senior nurse was saying how she was one of the first people to have a mobile phone. Back in her uni days, she used to carry her mobile phone with her to lectures…and once it rang in the middle of the lecture and everyone was like …”What is that sound?”

It was her phone ringing…no one had a mobile back then. Apparently, it was like a brick…and it had a battery life of 2 hours..so you had to carry spare batteries to insert inside -once it died. Apparently, it did not last longer than a single lecture in class.

Funny how technology has changed so much….gone are those heavy bricks and now come in the super light, super battery efficient touch screen smart phones…

Soon it will be, phones? Whats that? You mean Iwatch!?>?! who needs a phone to hold, when you can speak into your watch?!!

We could have only imagined those in action here/sci fi movies 20 years ago. Funny how things have changed.

Key pads ? Whats that?

Do you have broadband? I believe it is do you have NBN now?

Back in the days we would ask each other for our phone numbers…or home phones..addresses!

 

Now all you do is look up their name stalkbook.com and you can add them as friend or message them.

Where was I going with all this?

Yes, technology is forever changing… if we don’t catch up …we will fall behind. While it is good to have skills in case technology fails..is it really worth all that time learning complicated maths formulas, algebra and theories when we can easily look it up online or plug it into some computer that is smarter than us? Should we use that time instead to advance society in other ways?

I heard pretty much every child and their dog has a phone, tablet and laptop now. Teachers assume kids have laptops and some even require them to have them in class. The world is changing, what was relevant and important years ago, is and may no longer be necessary. it is a scary, yet exciting time to be in.

As long as we remember that technology isn’t trying to replace us, but can help us, I don’t see why we can not just use it to our advantage. Use it to replace the pen and ink..and use  the keyboard to write poetry, fiction and writing. Use the computer to help you bring your artistic dreams to life. Use technology to connect with others online, keep in touch with loved ones and to create the future.

This sounds like an extended ad for Apple, but really it is not. It is just me fulfilling my promise to blog more when I got my new sexy laptop!

This laptop is waayyyy more faster than my brothers old brick…that lagged and didn’t work half the time 😦

So, I hope to be able to write more… 🙂 It feels so good to type on this thing. Things like a real type writer and the keys light up as I touch it…

but yeah seriously, I do not work for Apple.

Joy and Peace to you!

 

 

The art of growing up? What does it mean to be a ‘grown up?’

This year, 2018, I have learned a lot of things…as people do.

The notion of taking time to do nothing…has lead to the very best of something. [Winnie the Pooh,2018].

My parents go away every year for a minimum of 2 months to Asia every year.  I mean, I am a big girl, right? I should know how to look after myself because I am 2[censored]* years old now!

WIth age, does not come wisdom automatically and if you are used to living with your parents for most of your life at home, how is one supposed to know how to become an adult if not given the opportunity? How is one supposed to know how to look after themselves?

Being the second youngest in my family…has its perks and also its downfalls. I am not the oldest, so I am not the bravest. I am not the youngest so I am not the most spoiled.

I am just kinda in the middle…Torn between acting like an adult or acting like a child.

Age is all relative, isn’t it?

If you put a baby next to a teenager, of course, the teenager is the old one out of them.

If you put that same teenager next to an 80-year-old man, of course, the teenager looks young.

If you put that 80-year-old man next to a prehistorical 3000 BC man, of course, that 80-year-old man is the young and still ALIVE one.

Hope you get my point.

Anyway, what was I talking about again?

So, back to my story. So this time when my parents went away, things were better. Because. My brother finally got his license and this means I don’t have to transport him everywhere and, in previous years I’ve been doing the majority of the grocery shopping because he claims, ”I can’t drive” and also if I asked him to come with me, he was like “You got this, I don’t need to come”. I think that would piss anyone off and plus he would not contribute to the groceries cost unless I asked him.

This made me extremely angry. BUT, then I asked myself. Aren’t I just as bad as him?

Yes, I am not his mother. But, my parents provide for me for the 10 months of the year…bills…water…food…groceries…toilet paper…etc and they don’t ask me for money…well I kinda give it to them anyways.

My brother and I live a privileged life because my parents pampered us and did everything for us.

When they were gone, I realised how dependent I still was. I had to cook, I learned to clean and to be more organised because time is more precious now and I can’t afford to waste money eating out all the time.

Things came into perspective…when I got into fights with my brother about doing chores or who had to pay for what. I realised…that my brother was taking advantage of me because I was older than him…he expected me to do everything for him. He treated me as if I was an adult.

But, I insisted that he TOO was an adult.

As much I was telling him to be an adult, I realised that I needed to as well.

The ball dropped. I was an adult when my parents were here too. It doesn’t..shouldn’t matter if they are here or not. I do not revert back to a helpless kid when they come back. I am an adult, I can and I am continuing to learn to look after myself.

I think I finally understand what WongFu Productions video on adulting was trying to say, it is not about eating healthy, exercising or getting more money. It is really about taking control of your life, of your finances, of your health and using your time wisely. It is about being the bigger person and really looking at your life and to see if you are doing something that you really want to do.

This video really changed my life.

Thank you, Wong Fu.

We are ALL adults. Relatively speaking.

Work as a hobby?

In the future, people may look back at us and wonder why we used to work?

Is it our purpose in life to find a job and contribute to society?

Is life meaningless if we do not work?

If we spent all our time on holidays and relaxing…would that bet he ideal life?

Then, who is going to make our  holiday possible? If everyone was on holiday?

How does a society function?

Are we supposed to replace all human form and life with robots?

Who knows..?

Will we be bored, forever on holidays….would we work as a hobby?

Instead of it being a rare thing to pursue your hobby as your career, what is if it was the rare thing that we worked in a job we hated?

Would we all be more passionate in our jobs? Whatever we do?

Some people like to clean, some people like to cook, some people like to help people…

What would our reward be? If money wasn’t necessary anymore?

Would we do it out of the kindness of our heart or because we have to?

What if volunteering was the norm and people looked like you were crazy for devoting so much time to something and getting paid for it.

What is the perfect society to be like?

Because we all know what is wrong with the world today, but do we even know what a perfect society would be?