In the face of uncertainty

I have always been a person who hated surprises or unknowns…I am just really bad at dealing with things that do not go to plan.

I think that might be the case for others too…When things change..when your favourite supermarket closes down, when that brand of leave in hair conditioner that has been discontinued or when the ownership of your favourite sushi restaurant goes to someone else… All these inconveniences and small mishaps can build up and you suddenly feel like nothing is a constant anymore. These things are what hold us down, ground us and perhaps makes us feel ‘safe’.

But the truth is, nothing lasts forever, all things have to come to an end at some stage or another. What in life is truly guaranteed? Except, Death of course…unless you somehow have worked out a way to become immortal. If so, please let me know your secrets…

In the face of uncertainty, what do you choose? Do you choose to take a risk or do you start with what is familiar, safe and the same?

Is it Fate?

Do you believe in fate?

Do all things happen for a reason? Or are they just random happenings and it just happened to turn out some way or the other?

I mean is it fate that our parents decided to get married, have a kid, and then bam you are here?

I personally think all the things we think might be random help turns us into the people we are today. Our setbacks, our failures, our successes all happen for some great unknown reason. Perhaps to help build resilience, or to prepare us for something we didn’t expect coming.

Perhaps that random job we did back in our uni days will somehow be the stepping stone for the launch of our career that we really wanted… I think you sort of only reflect and appreciate all the things that happen in your journey when you look back retrospectively..and be like…oh I see.. I didn’t get that job…but in the end end I got this one, which I think is much more suitable for me!

Or…I hated this job..I quit…but I found something so much better and it helped me grow. It can be frustrating when we feel like the place that we are now is now where we want to be…but if we take it all in our stride..as seeing as a pathway to get to where we want to go, perhaps the journey won’t be as burdensome.

 

I think personally for me my journey is going into another direction and exciting things are yet to come..

 

All the best to us!

 

#randomramblingend

How Babies change your life

So yesterday, my sister gave birth to a healthy 3.96kg. 52cm long baby boy! Congratulations!!!

It really is a miracle, or magic of some sort…that a baby can grow in the middle of a womens belly every 9 months and become a living being…it is incredible..yet none of us would be here if it weren’t for this miracle.

If you think about it, carrying a baby around with you for 9 months is quite a self-less act…you have to watch what you eat, what you do, and take numerous supplements and things that are meant to be ‘healthy’ for the baby. Your life becomes so focussed on the baby…

It doesn’t stop at just carrying the baby…after giving birth…you are forever scarred in someway by the method of delivery, for my sister a massive scar where the C-section was conducted. Your body may never be the same again… You have a living being that depends on you to survive.

Without you, it is helpless..you are the one who gives it a life source of nutrients..care and love.

You have to pause your life…maternity or paternity leave for however long…

I imagine that your life would start revolving around your child even as they grow older…You have to take them to school, prepare their lunches, buy uniform, books…go to Student-Teacher Interviews…Fundraisers for school, casual days, birthday parties…deal with conflicts like bullying or some other issue.

It sounds like a big commitment…

So why do so many people choose to give up (?) so much of their time, money, and freedom for their children?

It sounds like such a great sacrifice..

Maybe I don’t understand, because I am not a mother. But truly, mothers and fathers are quite selfless human beings when they brought us into the world.

Sure, they may be far from perfect and at times, even annoying. But they made a decision to raise you, to the best of their ability.

 

Thank you

House Maintenance

Another aspect of owning a house would be to learn how to look after it…to the best of your ability..

So my parents on a spur of the moment thing decided to change the tap in our kitchen sink..they bought the tap and asked my brother to put it together.

My brother went in blind, with no instruction sheet or nothing and began the dismantling of the sink with a variety of make shift tools-because he deemed my father’s tools inadequate. So the kitchen knife became a makeshift saw. Once the tap was off it was all about trying to install the new tap. But, alas..how are we to hold the tap in place?!?

My brother looked around and fold a squarish piece of metal and assumed that was what ¬†would hold the tap in place… however! It did not fit.

This is when my expertise was called upon. He asked me to google, “How to remove and install a faucet”. We watched the youtube video… but still we seemed to be missing a crucial part to the tap…I asked him if he had the box or something from the tap.

He said, no my parents had only given him the tap and the squarish metal piece and some random screw. I did not believe they would throw away the box that fast! (being the hoarders they are)…I located the box…and lo and behold…what was in the box? The instruction sheet and the missing parts we needed to install the tap…

and alas with our “teamwork”- (I found the pieces !! and I used my phone a torch light- crucial essential elements) we as a team managed to install the new tap. To our great surprise, it worked~ but yeah the tap is still very loose…not sure how we can fix that…

I think plumbers usually change taps and things like that…but my parents are more stingy on spending money to get things done properly, when they can give it a crack themselves…

It is however, I observed a strain on the back and painful working upwards…

I so much more appreciate the hard work plumbers do.