Why do we trust so easily? Until something happens that is…

Yesterday, a thought suddenly occurred to me… which had never occurred to me before… How can we trust those people around us?

I am not only referring to family members, friends, or lovers…but like the people who we may or may not know that are serving us in someway…behind a counter…or driving the bus that you may be catching to work…

Society is built on a trust that people will do their jobs in a safe and correct manner… In some ways, people will either use or not use a service based on their reputation and by word of mouth… However, in the case of public transport…we really do not have an alternative option…because it is something the government organises and there are not alternatives at this moment…

The reason I was thinking about this, was that I know one of my methadone clients at my workplace works for Uber Eats… I am not trying to say that all methadone clients are aggressive and rude…but this one is… I would personally, be scared and not really want them to be my uber eat deliverer… As I confront the feelings of why I feel this way…I just don’t trust them…?! What if they leave their delivery bag near drugs or they smoke weed… what if some drugs fall into the food? What if the bag is just dirty?? (Could apply to anyone delivering..do they clean those bags they use?)…Maybe it’s just me who overthinks these things…or SHOULD we be thinking of these things? Because I know restaurants in Australia have strict rules and regulations about cleanliness and hygiene control…but what about the people delivering the food?!!? What if they tamper with it while distributing it?

 

So much to think about .. :(…

Needless to say, I won’t be ordering food delivery for awhile…

 

 

 


 

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Stories of my Life- A podcast

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I finally figured out how to make a proper podcast recording and not end it up being a crappy cut version on youtube…!

I actually heard about an app used for recording and distributing podcasts- Anchor, because they sponsored one of my favourite Podcasts…And it’s pretty awesome! I am not super good with it..but so far have been able to publish my podcast and also it has some built-in ability to add background music to the podcasts…It also helped me create the small thumbnail for the podcast too… Anyways, if you are interested in making your podcast- download the Anchor App from your App Store. 🙂

Or when you check out my podcast, you can easily join up as well. Please check it out here…!

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I have no set schedule for uploads as of yet… I think it will be as random or even more random as the updates on this blog…

I am going to be talking about events in my life that have impacted me to become the person I am today. My vision for the podcast is that I will eventually get other people on the podcast and have conversations or interviews with them! I’ll see how I go first…

Podcast Reviews: Stories I tell on dates

So I recently binged listened (is that even a thing) to a podcast called “Stories I tell on Dates”- an interesting autobiography by Paul Shirley who was previously an NBA player.

I am not sure if it was his voice..or the stories or a combination of both…it sucked me in right from the introduction! What I loved was that he turned everyday experiences into fascinating -on-the-edge thrill type stories. He seemed to have gone through a lot of different things in his childhood and early adulthood…but haven’t we all? I have friends who have travelled the world like a nomad, are semi-professional pole dancers, have colleagues who have worked in emergency departments and been assaulted… There are so many people I encounter with so many stories…I almost feel overwhelmed just thinking about the sheer amount of stories that people hold.

I truly do not believe anyone is boring. Yes, their personality might put you off..but if language and personality wasn’t an issue, I think I would be able to befriend anyone. Not saying I have good personality skills or anything…but I think everyone has a story and there are only so many stories that are told for everyone to hear. Big props for Paul Shirley for sharing his story to the world…He let us into his deepest darkest secrets and thoughts…as a side bonus, I have also learnt a lot more about basketball, basketball injuries, and random places in America that I will now add to my bucket list to visit. If you haven’t already, I highly encourage to check out his podcast…I believe it is found on iTunes, Spotify, and on other podcast listening apps!

After finishing the whole podcast series in less than 48 hours…I feel somewhat inspired to start recording my own podcasts now…I have never thought about telling my story before…to be absolutely honest,  I hate the sound of my own voice! It makes me cringe listening to it…But, I think maybe that is a common occurrence? Because we don’t normally hear ourselves speak..I am sure our voices aren’t as bad as it seems…?

Telling a story with a voice is similar to I guess writing about it…but I guess it feels more natural…in a way, because you cannot delete (well I guess you can edit) what you say and you go more with the flow of things! I think I might take a small break from my studying and record my first podcast about a story of my life…

… edit if you want to check out my first snippet of life recording..

Stories of my life: Episode one: The time I was in a rock band

Is prevention always better than the cure?

This has been an thought of mine in the last few days… why does it always seem like we make a choice in either focusing our efforts on either ‘preventing’ something from happening or working on the ‘cure’ of it however temporary.

A classic example would be having vaccinations or waiting till you got a bug and taking medicines to ‘treat’ it. Do you pit yourself subject to numerous jabs by needles in order to give yourself the best possible chance against some pathogens you may or may not encounter?

Would your answer be easier if there is ‘no’ cure to a illness?

Straying to another prevention vs cure type scenario.. would be the cosmetic industry.. I see there are some companies that focus on solely on skin care.. moisturisers, toners, cleansing foams, eye creams, face masks… etc.. then there are other companies hat purely do make up..eyeshadow, blush, lipsticks.. you get my drift right? So, if you are the preventative type person.. you would focus a great of your money, time, and energy on making your skin as healthy as possible .. and so you may not need make up because your skin is so ‘naturally’ good.

On the other hand, maybe you are not a patient person.. not one that follows a strict thorough skin care routine.. they only put on makeup when they are outside anyways.. they rather not waste time on a long and tedious skin care routine… thy instead focus heavily on make up.. which can turn a pimply, acne-prone, dry skinned etc skin into a beautiful model perhaps from a magazine… you can barely recognise them without make up. They are just that good at make up..however , when the make up is gone.. they actually have terrible skins..

The last example I will give is.. about the decisions we make in life.. our openness towards letting other come into our lives. Have we had our trust broken before? Are we afraid to love or to let others love us? Are we always afraid that they will leave us or worse.. hurt us in a way that we feel we truly never heal…?

Or do we recklessly let people in, with the hopes that this person will be different and that they wont hurt us..? When they do, we get ‘treatment’.. which could be in all different forms… maybe its bingeing on food, random sex, drugs, alcohol, or just letting yourself be depressed for awhile and hoping you will get better.

How about you? Are you a preventative or a treatment prone person? Which had the better life?

Book Reviews: The subtle art of not giving a f*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

I just finished reading the “The subtle art of not giving a f*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life” by Mark Manson. Funny way I got introduced to this book…it was actually from an ex-suboxone client of mine…I saw it and asked about it when he brought it into the dosing room with him…he highly recommended reading it..and finally after about 6 months later of procrastinating…I finally read it.

He presents some interesting concepts and thoughts to really challenge my mind and thinking patterns. I like how he says, “Don’t try to know yourself”. If we get into that trap of thinking we act a certain way, then it can become very hard to change that way of thinking. We can prove ourselves wrong and surprise ourselves…

I really enjoyed the personal stories he told of his own adventures of adulthood…he also used a mixture of anecdotes from a number of well-known people…and he told them in a way that is both enthralling and captivating. His topics encompass a lot of topics including career, death, life, decisions, and love.

My personal favourite story he told was when he said he walking towards the edge of a cliff…what was only a few seconds in reality…was like an eternity for him…as he was inches away from dropping to his death…he described how he never felt so alive. I don’t think I have done his recollection justice…you have to read it for yourself :)).

This book teaches you the basics of knowing what your values are and choosing what not to give an f*Ck about. Interesting concepts that are taught in an easy to understand and jargon-free book. If you don’t normally read self-help or non-fiction, I would highly recommend this book to you. It will hopefully offer you a different perspective or way of viewing this complicated life.

I am thinking of checking out the other book he has written…!

If you have read it or are planning to, please let me know your thoughts on this book.

 

One year… How time flies

Exactly one year ago I stepped into a room full of people I did not know and began what would be the first step of employment at my current company…Little did I know what I would expect..

 

So many things I have learnt since then, experienced, cried over, rejoiced over…so many feelings and memories.

The good and the bad, the happy and the sad. One year passed by in the blink of an eye. To think that we only get about, say, 100 years to live…I have spent 1% of my life at this company. It makes me feel old, makes me appreciate the time…and to consider whether or not now is a good time to move on with my life. There is so much I feel like I haven’t lived..haven’t experienced…and there is still much to learn.

It’s so easy for some people to stay put in one job for 5, 10, 20 or heck even 40 years. How do you do it?

Maybe I just have commitment issues…

Yes, you may become incredibly good and senior in your job…but where is the diversity? …in different environments you are forced to change, adapt, grow, and experience new and different ways of doing things.

Yes, it can be hard to say goodbye to familiar settings, people, ways…but it can also set you free to become someone even better.

I think this year will close a chapter of my life in a way. Let’s start moving on next year…it’s time to prepare for some changes,

Do we choose sadness?

Do we get to choose what makes us happy and what makes us sad?

I mean, it is normal at times to feel happy and then at other times feel sad… but do we get a choice in the matter..?

Sometimes I wonder and worry whether i am too much of one or the other… but maybe I am just overthinking it too much… what is normal for me maybe abnormal got you… I guess we got to compare it to our baseline.. whatever that is..

So instead of trying to wish away some emotion… maybe just embrace it as wholeheartedly as I can… because feeling emotions… feeling something is better than feeling nothing isn’t it? If we felt nothing, would we really be considered a human being?

I guess there’s a time and place for everything.. where there happiness and joy.. then there will also be sadness and sorrow.. for if without the other.. how would we be able to tell them apart?