Book Reviews: The subtle art of not giving a f*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

I just finished reading the “The subtle art of not giving a f*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life” by Mark Manson. Funny way I got introduced to this book…it was actually from an ex-suboxone client of mine…I saw it and asked about it when he brought it into the dosing room with him…he highly recommended reading it..and finally after about 6 months later of procrastinating…I finally read it.

He presents some interesting concepts and thoughts to really challenge my mind and thinking patterns. I like how he says, “Don’t try to know yourself”. If we get into that trap of thinking we act a certain way, then it can become very hard to change that way of thinking. We can prove ourselves wrong and surprise ourselves…

I really enjoyed the personal stories he told of his own adventures of adulthood…he also used a mixture of anecdotes from a number of well-known people…and he told them in a way that is both enthralling and captivating. His topics encompass a lot of topics including career, death, life, decisions, and love.

My personal favourite story he told was when he said he walking towards the edge of a cliff…what was only a few seconds in reality…was like an eternity for him…as he was inches away from dropping to his death…he described how he never felt so alive. I don’t think I have done his recollection justice…you have to read it for yourself :)).

This book teaches you the basics of knowing what your values are and choosing what not to give an f*Ck about. Interesting concepts that are taught in an easy to understand and jargon-free book. If you don’t normally read self-help or non-fiction, I would highly recommend this book to you. It will hopefully offer you a different perspective or way of viewing this complicated life.

I am thinking of checking out the other book he has written…!

If you have read it or are planning to, please let me know your thoughts on this book.

 

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying- Marie Kondo

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So I have finished the first book by Marie Kondo “The Life-changing Magic of Tidying” and have started listening to the audiobook for her second book. I think it is too early to tell if my life has changed from tidying…well technically I haven’t finished yet.. I am still in the process of getting rid of papers and books…It’s a bit hard…I went through all my notes from my University undergrad days…and there sure was a lot of trees that were sacrificed for my sake. :(. I feel bad for chucking away all the once important informations…but to be honest…when am I going to need it again?

Things are always changing in my profession, so whatever I was taught back then is probably out of date and superseded by some new information…

Going through all my books from university, I noticed that my style of studying changed dramatically throughout the year. I started with using just A4 clear plastic folders…then this turned into those folders in which you can bind papers together and still write on them…then in my later years I discovered the “ART OF BINDING”! And I bound all my notes for a subject in one big chunk…It was awesome..But it also meant I had to carry all of my notes despite maybe only needing just one lecture note.

That aside, I had to really think, what would I like to keep?

In the end the things that I kept were things that I thought maybe I would use in the future..for me personally it was things pertaining to Clinical Trials and Opioid Substitution therapies in which are the areas I work in at the moment. I also kept some mock oral exam scenarios…just incase I ever am able to get into teaching! I would love to be one of those on the other side of the examination table…

Marie Kondo said there are two main reasons why people find it difficult to discard things...
  1. 1. They are worried they might need that item in the future
  2. 2. They are afraid of letting go of the past and the memories attached to those objects.

    This really struck me hard. Why had I kept so much stuff? Was it because I wanted to remember the past? While cleaning up my room, I found letters, cards photos, random keepsakes of places I have travelled to and postcards…What was the point of keeping all of these things? I honestly don’t ever even look at it! They only get found by cleaning. ..Marie Kondo says many people say they want to be able to grow old and then have all of these memories to reflect back on the past... But what about living in the moment? Why do you want to live forever in the past? What happened to making good memories right now? Reminiscing greatly does not help in my opinion…unless you just want to remain stuck in the past.

I did find it hard to let go of all the excess items that I have hoarded. These things looked perfectly usable…HOWEVER, I did not use them. Marie Kondo also said, “If you look after your things, they will look after you”. I honestly do not think I look after most of my items well…No wonder they look sad and worn out! She stressed the importance of treating your things with respect and making sure that the items return to the home that they came from. She also shared in her book that she thanks her items for the hard work they have done for her for that day…that may sound crazy, but who knows…maybe your items will work for you longer :O..I personally think t doesn’t hurt to be grateful for what you have…

This clean has made me realise that I am just as bad of a hoarder as my parents…but you probably would not be able to tell at first glance at my room…It’s relatively clean…Minimal items on the floor..I have boxes, cupboards, and wardrobes that hide all my excess items. It looks clean, but it really isn’t…I’ve just created that illusion by putting all my things away behind closed doors…It made really think about my life…and have I also been stuffing all my true intentions, emotions, and hiding how who I am and what I truly feel behind closed doors?

So, I do believe that the tidying that I have been doing has really challenged the way I think about problems…am I really solving them ? Or just temporarily hiding it out of sight? In which they will resurface again each time I do a “Clean”…

How about you? Are you going to take the challenge and get into the  Life Changing Magic of Tidying? You never know what sort of life lessons you might learn from it!

 

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The Art of Tidying Up – Marie Kondo

A few months ago, I was visiting my sister…and she was like… “Come and see how awesome my sock drawer is!”…as she proudly showed me the neatly folded up socks in their own individual square. My sister explained to me, by folding your socks this way, you save time and you also lessen the chance that you will destroy the elastic in your socks. A bonus is that it looks so neat and cute! This was the first time (that I remember) I heard of the now well-known name.. “Marie Kondo”. This was the day I became a Konvert. I could not wait to go home and do the same thing to my sock drawer…and then proceed to spread the discovery of this wonder to my mother…and anyone else that would listen…

I was so excited…I felt this was more than just the tidying up in a different way of my socks…it was deeper in a sense that…I had to break an old habit and make a new one. The old way is comfortable, familiar and seemed easy …but when shown this new and more efficient way…I realised…maybe I have been doing it wrong my whole life.

It almost does certainly feel like a religion! For the next few days and weeks…I spent a lot of time Tidying up my room. After I finished my sock drawer, I went on with the underwear, the sports clothes drawer, the leggings and singlets…and then it was t-shirts and shorts… I went out and bought extra containers to separate my clothes. Eventually…I came to a stand still…there are a whole bunch of clothes hanging up…its so hard…I can’t choose which to keep and which to throw…and then I began my procrastination. My fervour was gone…less time was spent tidying. I still folded my clothes different…but it was with less joy and it was not as visually appealing as before.

Isn’t that true with life in general? We can whole heartedly pursue a new goal, dream and hobby! We get obsessed with it…we feel like that’s all that matters in life…it becomes the focus of all our attention. Then… we become familiar with it, we get slack, we get disinterested…and something else pops up and we forget all about it. Does this ring true for anyone?

How do we keep going and keep pursuing something when we have lost interest? Do we fight at it? Or will it just come back naturally?

I don’t know the answer for you…but for myself…I believe that if the motives behind my doing something is align with my inner values and beliefs…that I will go back to what I started/did. For example, as a young child in primary school, I hated being told what to do…my mother made me learn piano but I hated it! I hated practicing…I don’t like those songs we learn either. EWW. I wanted to instead play the VIOLIN. For some reason I thought it would be wayyyy cooler and I would naturally want to practice at it. To my surprise, my parents agreed and I got to stop my piano classes and take up violin instead…

Then started the weekly classes, then the rehearsals for orchestra…and my mum was getting excited…her child was performing! But, something happened…I got an infection over my finger…and I used that as an excuse not to play…I had inwardly not grown to love the violin…I secretly regretted every changing! Violin I found was wayyy harder to play than the piano…I had to tune the violin, set up the neck rest…which was hard to get used to…and I had to look after the bow and keep it clean and pack the violin carefully away in its case. It was a lot of things to remember for a young kiddo. After taking that break…I never went back, probably to my parents and grandparents disappointment.

Fast track a few years later I am in high school now… I didn’t choose music as a subject as I hadn’t didn’t play an instrument anymore. I just so happened to meet two friend who were doing music…one played the violin and the other played piano…suddenly I also wanted to join back in…I didn’t feel like I wanted to pick up the violin again…so I went back to taking piano classes and I sneaked back into music classes once again.

This time I got a new piano teacher, I told her I didn’t want to learn from those boring graded books anymore, instead I asked if I can learn my favourite theme songs from my favourite anime at that time, Naruto. (Yes, I am was a sad otaku back then…). Loving the background music from those anime, motivated me..inspired me and made me want to practice so I could also play the music that I was passionate and interested in. I no longer needed my mother to push me to practice, it was more like the opposite… I think at the time I probably annoyed the family by playing the piano so much…I would play for hours and they would get annoyed because they wanted to watch tv but they couldn’t hear what was being said. SORRY…!. Well, since that time I haven’t really stopped playing. I still listen out for good music, whether it be songs or background music and seek to learn them….Music for me has always been a way to escape..to forget the present…and allows me to transport myself to somewhere else. It’s the most beautiful noise I think we can make. I don’t know how to explain it and I am not sure how I got to this topic…but hopefully you can find what motivates you and find the reason to keep going and pursuing what makes you tick.

I believe I will get back into the tidying…because the reason why I do it is because of efficiency and I love that feeling of neatness and tidiness. In order to feel good however, first we have to go through the tidying process which can be quite uncomfortable because it makes us face the mess in our lives and actually deal with the problem at hand. I watched the netflix show…but haven’t read her book as of yet, if you haven’t checked out Marie Kondo…I  highly recommend doing it!!

-Konvert

Book Review: How to Write Good- Ryan Higa

Have you ever thought about what you want in life?

What is the end goal that you are working towards?

Or are you working towards nothing at this moment?

I have recently read “How to write good” By the YouTuber Ryan Higa..I am big fan of YouTubers who also write books! I love the heart to heart back stories and inspirational that you can draw from everyday people like you and I.

He mentions that as a young kid he had thought about becoming a radiologist or even a pharmacist! But then he decided that that was too hard or too boring respectively. I think he made a wise decision, rather than waste all that effort, time, and money to get to that stage of life and realise maybe it was all for nothing..if you aren’t passionate or dedicated enough to do it.

Higa says that as a high school kid, he got into wrestling and he was so passionate and dedicated to wrestling..so much so that he would run 5miles each day and go on crazy diets just to lose enough weight to compete in his weight class… before that he wasn’t driven to attend Judo or Basketball training..he hated it… because he had no interest or passion for it…How many of us do the things we do, just because we are used to it? Just because we are not great at it, but we don’t suck at it. We grow complacent and just do it because its familiar, its normal, its better than doing nothing right?

Well, as Winnie the Pooh once said, “Sometimes doing nothing can lead to the very best of something”…but in this case maybe it helps us realise what we don’t like and focus on what we might end up finding we like…

High also mentions how his love for making videos was for his own viewing pleasure and for a select few friends…back in the old days he had a family cam corder he would use to record at family events and do random videos with his neighbour hood friends… all successes started with small seemingly insignificant starts. Now look at Higa, 13 years later and one of the most successful YouTubers of all time…

Don’t hate the small starts, they are only the beginning of something more awesome…

I would like to hope starting and continuing this blog will lead me somewhere equally as awesome..maybe I will get to publish a book one day?

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I made my own PodCast Style Youtube Video-Titled White Noise

Hi,

So I invested in a microphone for recording Audio…so I recorded myself for 25 minutes long…and have shortened that to a ten minute talk about my favourite motivational/self-help books!

I called it White Noise Podcast, because I literally fell asleep listening to my self talk for 25 minutes…hence I shortened it to around 15 minutes max…hahah

You can watch/listen to it here:

Let me know what you think!

I am not much of a video or animator to be honest…so hopefully voice will still be fine!

Take care!

Joy