#20 How to isolate yourself from social media

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I took part in an experiment which measured the use of social media in a week, my randomised action was that I had to delete the Instagram app on my phone and not use it for a week. Though I was tempted a few times, I quickly asked my self, is it necessary to show the world where you are? What you are eating? Who you are with?

After some deliberation, I think not. So why do people like to post so many selfies of their face on Instagram?

I found the answer on this wonderful article on Loneliness here 26 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re Feeling Lonely: *Recommend you to read!*. This is also a link to some ‘brutally  honest’ statuses on facebook…35 Brutally Honest Facebook Statuses

I have to admit, I didn’t realise that I was so lonely, until I deleted a lot of my apps, Facebook, Whatsapp, Youtube, Instagram and realised this is the way we ‘communicate’ with some many people. It is what connects us? Yet, also tears us apart. Is there going to be anyone who wants to meet up with me to catch up instead of sending a message? Truly, I am not sure if the world is closer than before or even further away.

So many people are isolated and lonely…and they can sit in front of a computer or phone screen scrolling through the ‘happy’ snaps that their ‘friends’ are posting of their ‘family’, their ‘holiday’ or their latest ‘home’ that they bought. While I am not saying these things are bad, but do you know what you are doing? Are you trying to rub it into everyone else’s faces that you have it better than them? Are you even genuinely happy or do you just want attention?

As I said, I am full guilty of this…I am insecure, I want attention, I want to fool my self that my life is happier, more interesting and better than it is. I don’t want people to see me down, to see me sad or lonely, I feel like people would criticise me…belittle me.

Recently, I have realised that well-meaning ‘friends’ have offended me greatly.  I read a quote today,

It is easier to forgive an enemy than forgive a friend.

William Blake

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It is true though…because we actually care what our friends say and when they make us feel like shit without knowing it, you ask yourself are they even your real friend? They don’t know the struggles you are doing through and are insensitive bitches. This is why I boycotted pretty much all social media. I feel like I am dead, like hardly anyone talks to me now, except family and a few selected friends overseas through Line and Wechat. When did our world become so involved in facebook? Instagram? Snap Chat? When we leave it, it’s like we are dead and forgotten in the world. When we meet someone new, we don’t ask for phone numbers or emails anymore, no we ask for Facebook accounts. SO what if I don’t have one? Are we not going to keep in touch?

It feels weird sending someone a text and them not replying and you not knowing if they have ‘seen it’…but what can we do?

Man, I am getting so hyped up typing this.

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So…. back on topic…how do you isolate yourself from social media? Just delete your apps, log out, delete and deactivate your accounts. Hopefully, those that you are actually close to, will call your phone or send you a text.

Addiction to social media is draining, stupid, harmful and time-consuming. It can definitely lead to FOMO and low self-esteem. Live life how you want to live it and stop looking at what everyone else is doingwhat happened to human interaction? When did we become part robots with phones attached to our hands?

Joy to the World-

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#15 How to a humble person

I am not sure about you, but I dislike arrogant people… I mean true they may have done some great things, but by boasting about it- that does not leave a great impression of you on me as a person… Do you really need to boast about what you do? That makes me think you only did those things to boast about it. #rant

So I went to a volunteer induction day to become a First Aid Volunteer for events around my town, Adelaide…So a group of about 20 people, some students, some workers and some health professionals who were interested in volunteering with this not-for-profit organization were there. But there was one lady that kept interrupting the speaker with not one, not two, not even five, but like 10+ questions. It honestly felt like she was having a private conversation with the facilitator, making all of us wait in boredom. Okay, so some of the questions were fair enough, but then she started to make them super-personal about Herself… Plus she felt the need to tell us all about her life like we cared. I found out that she is an Enrolled Nurse (la-di-da I am sure there were Registered nurses, doctors and pharmacists (me!) in that room too that didn’t bother to tell everyone else…so shut up, please! She had to make a comment about everything single thing that guy showed us…He showed us the green whistle in the kit (like portable happy gas) and she was like “Whats that?” =.= because she wasn’t listening…then he was like…it’s the green whistle…and she’s like “OH THAT”… I highly doubt she knew what it was, I’ve dispensed it quite often for the medical centre doctor bags, so I knew but I pretended I didn’t because no one likes know-it-alls. GAWDDDDDDS that woman was super annoying…

I am sorry I am so angry at her for boring me tonight …anyways…It has inspired me to make this post on how to be HUMBLE. Show you are awesome and don’t just spray it. TENKS.

  1. Don’t think of yourself as better than anyone else. Everyone has a unique and special contribution that only they can make. You have probably heard that quote, “Don’t look down on anyone unless you are helping them up”. A good person and team player will see others as equals.

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  2. Good leaders will lead by example and not by dictatorship. A good leader is someone that is approachable and is also open to correction. No one is ALWAYS right and I think if someone cared to point out an error to you, thank them for being so honest and try to rectify that situation!

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  3. A humble person that is having a conversation with someone else doesn’t just talk about themselves the whole time, they are also super interested in the other person. I am not sure about you, but I’ve had friends who love talking about themselves and yeah I can spend a whole night/day learning everything about them, but they won’t ever find out anything about me, because they are too busy talking about themselves. It makes for a boring company when you spend time with them (unless you hate talking about yourself then its fine).

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  4. When talking to people in person, respect them! Give them eye contact, be interested in what they say and don’t play with your phone or cut them off.

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  5. Be early or try your best time to not be late when meeting people! I am still working on this…I think it’s time to get a new watch…Respect that their time is as valuable as yours!!

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  6. Always be open to learning and be a learner for life! Things are constantly changing and you have to keep up to date to stay in the game. If someone shows you a better way than yours to do something that makes it more efficient, safe or whatever, be humble and don’t just discount immediately what they have said, just because they are younger or a junior. Look to learn from others, whether those older or younger, they all have something to offer.

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  7. Admit that you are not perfect! None of us have never NOT messed up at one point. We all have! It is OKAY to make mistakes… as long as we learn from them and work on ways that we can be better…It takes humility to admit that we were WRONG and they were RIGHT…
  8. Give compliments and encouragement to others! Just because you are super good at something, doesn’t mean that you cannot encourage others to do the same…! You never know how much your kind words can make the day of someone else :)! #sharethelove

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  9. Be in nature, appreciate animals and small children! Isn’t that flower so intricately beautiful and perfect? Who created the corgi? Such cuteness in that fluffy butt! SO FLUFFFFFFFFFYY!! That kid’s smile is so adorable! Nature, kids, and animals can teach us so much if we are willing to learn from them.

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  10. Don’t compare yourself to others. There is always going to be someone else that is more beautiful, more talented at something that you are. Just be the best…YOU that you can be. Compare yourself to you from 5/10 years ago! You might not be where you want to be, but at least you aren’t where you were before.

Let’s all try to be a little more humble (myself included)! It’s a lifetime journey thing, so don’t feel bad if you aren’t there yet! At least we are on our way~!

Take care and stay humble bumble bees~!