Do as I say but not as I do

You’ve heard that statement, practice what you preach.

But how many leaders actually follow their own advice?

I mean I understand nobody is perfect 100% of the time.

But, doesn’t it suck if you have a leader who likes to tell others what to do, except won’t follow their own advice?

It is like they are immune to the rules of the company.

Hypocritical describes it I suppose.

There are no perfect leaders, but some are better than others…who work harder than they need to.

And some who you don’t want to listen to what they say or do, like Mr Trump.

Last Day

Last days are so awkward.

There is a swirl of emotions.

Happiness. Sadness. Regret. Anxiety.

There are people that you may never see again.

There are some you want to say Good Riddance forever to

Then there are others that you want to hold onto to.

So many memories are made…both the good and the bad.

But, you appreciated the journey.

You learnt something new.

You grew a bit as a person and as an adult.

And you are one step closer to where you might want to go.

You’ll miss it, but you don’t know if you would go back given the chance.

But maybe you will have the opportunity one day.

Who knows?

The Breaking Point

I think we all have a limit.

A point where just one small thing can put you over the edge.

Something small that usually wouldn’t bother you.

But you have had enough.

I think you know it’s happening, even when you try to convince yourself everything is okay.

People think you are fine when you are barely holding yourself together.

You try to brush it away, pretend it is not real…BUT IT IS there and it eats away like you like an internal parasite.

The parasite is eating away at your and slowly it takes over your whole body.

Slowly you become an empty shell…Where you feel nothing, care about nothing, and do things you didn’t care about.

It’s a ticking timebomb and someday…you are gonna explode.

Then you will know.

It’s too late.

You’ve reached your breaking point.

Working from Home

Just a disclaimer, in my type of job I can’t work from home, unfortunately…however, I know plenty of friends who are having the opportunity to Work from Home (WFH). However, despite the huge perks of not having to wake up so early each day to “get ready for work” and the time saved on travel…I think there are some huge disadvantages to working at home too.

PROS:

-Can sleep in (This is worth 10 bonus points)
-Enjoy and finish a full cup of HOT coffee
-Don’t need to commute in heavy traffic to and back from work- saving money AND time
-Don’t need to put on your professional attire and face =Less laundry to wash each week
-Work in the comfort of your own home and your pjs
-Fewer distractions *…
-Lunch break whenever and however long
-Change of scenery
-Home is the best*
-The abundance of snacks, coffee, FOOD
-No need to deal with those annoying colleagues that you secretly hate
-PRIVACYYYYYYY
-Work at your own pace
-Great for introverts

*if you don’t have kids

Cons

-Tempted to keeps snoozing forever
-Tempted to not work and play with the phone all day and watch cute youtube videos of cats and dogs
-Probably eat too many snacks
-Boring Zoom meetings- I mean what if you need to go to the toilet?
-Technical difficulties
-Sucks if the internet went down or if your connection sucks
-The temptation to keep working past your normal hours
-More difficult if you live with other people in the house…i.e Kids, Parents, housemates…and I imagine the background noise may be distracting…
-Could get FOMO of those who AREN’T working and seem to be enjoying themselves
-Feeling isolated and lonely from lack of human contact..
-Lack of Morale or Zeal when working alone
-Parents or family members could walk in anytime during meetings or while you are in deep concentration
-Bad for extroverts

These are what I imagine would be the pros and cons of working at home :O I know, for one thing, I can’t even switch off after work lately…I go home and ruminate about what I forgot to do, write feedback for interns, checking stock availabilities, plan schedules for the other staff, answer emails, look up stuff at home…Not good ūüė¶

Keen to hear your experiences… Are you working from home?

Positivity Needed

Hi everyone,

My sister recently invited me to join this Facebook group: The Kindness Pandemic.  It is basically a group that shares different acts of kindness that they have experienced while the Coronavirus is going around in the world. It is the much-needed positivity that we need at a time where the world as it seems has changed and become a more grey colour.

I also want to shout out to our local grocery chain, ‘Coles’, who have decided to open early on Tuesdays and Thursdays for Health Care workers! I am planning to go in the morning and suss out who the other health care workers around the neighbourhood are and I wonder if there will be a stampede of people waiting outside when it opens?¬†Personally, I am trying to stay at home as much as possible after work. I am trying to limit my weekly visit to the supermarket once a week. Yes, it is a bit boring at times, BUT on the plus side, I am helping to stop the potential spread of the disease.

My mind-shift about this disease has rapidly changed over the last few weeks…I was a sceptic a while ago….when the disease was overseas in China, it felt so far away! People were dying, yes…But it seemed so far. But now, the disease is on shores…It has reached and it has spread as people spread throughout Australia. My parents took quick action, getting as many things they thought they would need if they were self-isolated in the home. I wouldn’t call them ‘hoarders’ as such, but people who are thinking ahead. My parents are well-informed about the situation in China and were around when SARS also happened. They have refrained from going outside unless absolutely necessary and their church was also very proactive in going ‘Online’ with meetings instead of meeting face to face. It is a lot more than the rest of the population who seem to disregard the seriousness of this pandemic.

I used to think, I am young, I can survive this disease…But then, I also have to think, who may I be spreading the disease to? My patients at work? My elderly aunts and uncles? My nephew? My parents? A pregnant lady? Who knows who could get the disease from me and how can I live with the guilt that I may have been responsible for spreading something. While it can be really tempting to make this an “All about me” thing, we have to remember its also all about keeping “them” safe too. Also, as a health care worker…we have to look after our own health so that we can look after others… Please be patient with us as it’s not our fault there are medication shortages due to people stockpiling their medications :(! There is no need to stockpile medications during this time! There won’t be a shortage if everyone just gets their usual supply…

On a side note, I went to post a package today at the post office and I was really pleased that they implemented a 1.5 Metre marked lines on the floor to indicate how far people were to stand from each other! It’s great when businesses implement these ideas to help STOP the spread of the disease. I have also noticed some shopping centres having installed more automatic alcohol gel dispensers…People at KFC drive-through were also wearing gloves and not accepting cash. I hope everyone is able to see the seriousness of this disease and ramp up hygiene measures to minimise the spread!¬†Good job to those people! I believe we can all do our small part.

 

Stay safe and well,

 

Joy

P.S Wash your hands!

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Doubles Partner

Playing badminton can teach you about life.

Something that just occurred to me recently is, it is so important to find a good doubles partner for badminton/life.

In doubles, it is important that you can trust, communicate, and work well with the other person. If you don’t trust your partner, and they call a shot out-yet you don’t believe them…then you lose the point. Similarly, if you partner starts attacking from the back, the other person needs to know to move to cover the front of the court.

When things gets hard, as in you have been forced to do a lift which makes you susceptible to getting smashed by your opponents… you both have to take a side and defend the court. It would be incredibly hard if you you remained in a front and back formation as it would be hard to cover the whole court in that way.

If you did as drop shot, where the shuttlecock is really close to the net, you need to stay there and cover the next shot…in case they drop the shuttle back to you. It would be hard for your partner to run straight to the front of the court to cover the shot…

A good partner would encourage you to play and do better. Someone who gets angry easily and stops communicating is hard to play with…similarly if they don’t communicate saying “Yours” or “Mine”…there will be chances that clashes of racquets could happen.

Small things like high fiving after a good shot or praising, encouraging your partner is important. It may sound like nothing, but these small amounts of encouragement help to boost morale and lifts the team spirit.

Post game…win or loss…it’s important to keep the communication open…it can be hard after a loss not to blame the other person…but it’s good to thank them for playing and say the usual ‘We’ll do better next time’.

With these types of attitudes and learnings, I think it can be applicable and generalisable to all types of relationships with people you may have. Whether in family situations, work situations, friendships…and romantic relationships..

House Maintenance

Another aspect of owning a house would be to learn how to look after it…to the best of your ability..

So my parents on a spur of the moment thing decided to change the tap in our kitchen sink..they bought the tap and asked my brother to put it together.

My brother went in blind, with no instruction sheet or nothing and began the dismantling of the sink with a variety of make shift tools-because he deemed my father’s tools inadequate. So the kitchen knife became a makeshift saw. Once the tap was off it was all about trying to install the new tap. But, alas..how are we to hold the tap in place?!?

My brother looked around and fold a squarish piece of metal and assumed that was what ¬†would hold the tap in place… however! It did not fit.

This is when my expertise was called upon. He asked me to google, “How to remove and install a faucet”. We watched the youtube video… but still we seemed to be missing a crucial part to the tap…I asked him if he had the box or something from the tap.

He said, no my parents had only given him the tap and the squarish metal piece and some random screw. I did not believe they would throw away the box that fast! (being the hoarders they are)…I located the box…and lo and behold…what was in the box? The instruction sheet and the missing parts we needed to install the tap…

and alas with our “teamwork”- (I found the pieces !! and I used my phone a torch light- crucial essential elements) we as a team managed to install the new tap. To our great surprise, it worked~ but yeah the tap is still very loose…not sure how we can fix that…

I think plumbers usually change taps and things like that…but my parents are more stingy on spending money to get things done properly, when they can give it a crack themselves…

It is however, I observed a strain on the back and painful working upwards…

I so much more appreciate the hard work plumbers do.