Experience?

I woke up today and I was working on writing a job application for a senior pharmacist position…and as I was thinking of all the different pharmacies I have worked and all the different roles I have had…and realised I am an experienced pharmacist…even though I don’t think I am… I have achieved much and experienced much… I don’t know everything, but I know something.

Applying for jobs is about selling yourself, your knowledge, and your experiences. Some talent in writing is needed here…you want to make it seem like you have done more and learnt more than you probably have…if you undersell yourself, you won’t even get a chance to progress from paper to in-person interview.  That reminds me, I have another interview this coming week… It is part of the same company I am currently in..but a different branch…further away from my house… but hey, stability in finances comes with a cost. I love my job now, but having short contracts constantly and not knowing if I have a job next year is scary…and I need to do my best to grab whatever opportunities there are… Otherwise, I won’t be able to save up for my house :(.

I feel really lucky now…Even though at times it’s frustrating…scary… tiring.. and exhausting. I think there will come a time where I will look back, and say I can’t believe I made it that far…by working so hard! You reap what you sow and if you worked hard…your efforts will pay off.

Going to a house inspection later today…I finally have a day off! So I might as well use my time wisely.

In other news, yesterday I heard from a colleague that another colleague had suddenly passed away..No one knows why. They were young. Lot’s of potential and a funny person. They will surely be missed. But it reminded me greatly about the uncertainty of life and the experiences we have interacting with each other…If you treat someone badly, and then they pass away, there is no opportunity to say sorry or to forgive them.

So think again, do you want to live a life of regret? Treat people the best that you can.

I honestly rather that people treat me bad, then I treat someone bad.

Dating Apps In Real Life

How crazy/convenient would it be if dating apps were utilised in the everyday world?

Imagine you pass by someone attractive, you have no idea whether they think you are attractive as well… You want to know them better, but you aren’t sure if they are interested as well… You want to say hi, but you are afraid that they will think you are a creep!

How do you even know they are single and looking to mingle?

Well, a dating app -(sorta) help with that!

Imagine walking by someone attractive and being able to press a smiley button or swipe them right?

Imagine you guys sent each other smiles- next you are able to start a conversation without feeling it is creepy….!

How much easier would it be, or harder if the interactions we used online were to apply online…would we understand each other’s behaviours and emotions better?

If we could dislike something someone said…so that they don’t have to guess our opinion on a matter?

Would the world be a more straightforward place with people where people’s thoughts would come to life into real actions?

I don’t know, what are your thoughts?

The evolution of the online dating<3

I would not call myself a trendsetter, or even someone that possesses the latest piece of technology..it was just by chance that when I needed a new laptop and was planning to get a MAC-the new MacBook Air came out..so I was like why not? *shrugs sheepishly*

ANYWAYS, online dating websites and apps have been around for ages…meeting people online (think Tinder, Ok CUPID, East meets East, bumble..) has always been a thing, but it still has such a stigma attached to it…because half-remembered quote from “Ralph Wrecks the Internet” – When something new comes along, the best thing for people to do is to fear it”.. something like that!

So..if we go back 18 years to when I was 10 years old (age reveal) and I made my first hotmail address which was something like sugar*****10@hotmail.com ..we used to all use something called MSN messenger! This is where online chats and adding random people on the internet became the new trend..suddenly …you could be whoever you wanted to be..!    You could change your name to Blonde_Hunk_with_Blue_Eyes or Sexy_Asian Chick_that_looks_like_Mulan_and find some random picture on the internet and pretend it was you…then you can proceed to what we now call “Cat fish” random strangers on the internet and pretend you are the love of their life, when you are NOT. True story, I have to confess my sister and I might have been chatting up a “young girl” and pretending to be a sexy blue-eyed blonde haired Australian lifeguard…but anyways…

This is before the world started caring so much about verified identity and privacy…when people said the internet was bad! Because young girls were being baited by old men behind the screens posing as handsome men, when in reality, for me it was the other way round.

I still remember playing Neopets obsessively for a period of time during my primary school days… and I also made friends on those guild websites..one guy called Ryan helped me build a website for my Naruto Guild…Another girl obsessed with Naruto, called Tiffany told me about her home town Canada, and at that young age I decided I would go to Canada to visit. It made the world suddenly seem smaller. I looked up the sky one day and thought to myself, somewhere on the other side of the world, perhaps in Canada, someone else is staring at the same sky.

In summary, the online digital world is changing…and why shouldn’t the way we meet people change as well? We can meet people not online in our proximity but interesting people all over the world with many fascinating stories…why limit yourself to those around you? What is to say that it safer to date and meet someone at a bar, where you know nothing about them in comparison to a guy you have been talking to for weeks online (and you’ve stalked their fb and insta to make sure they are who they say they are)..?

Why is there stigma surrounding online dating?

I realised myself, I have been really afraid to tell people I joined dating apps and I only told a few people. They didn’t judge..but I can see it in their eyes..When they asked, where did you guys meet?

Online is where we meet people with similar interests, buy stuff off them or find study groups…we’ve all done it before…there are actual people behind those screens…its not robots and they aren’t all serial killers.

 

But in saying that, it is always a good idea to let people know you are meeting someone online, have your phone on you (GPS on) and meet in a public place in day time…and make sure you have your own transport home and scapegoat excuses if you need to leave early… But yes, only meet after making sure that person is legit!! Stalk their fb…ask around and play detective. The more information the better…people that are real will act real, they won’t be ‘perfect’ you know? You will know…

 

I knew one happily married couple who met online like over 10 years ago..I’ve always assumed that that was a abnormality…I never asked what website..but I had my reservations..but hey..it worked..

 

But..I’ve always been somewhat traditional…I prefer writing traditional Chinese to simplified, I like writing and sending letters and cards than emails and I love receiving hand-written and made things…But at the same time, I am always open to trying new things that can make your life more interesting, better, and more efficient.

SO probably a ,year ago I decided to revisit my hobby when I was 10. I made an account on a dating website, but since I felt so ashamed-and didn’t want to get found out… and just wanted to try it for fun ( I wanted to see which other people I knew also used it!! haha) …I put a fake name..but being a but stupid I put a real photo (filters and stuff) on there..DOH..someone I kinda knew saw it and told a friend of mine…and I was found out…felt so guilty LOL..Coz fake name..I think I MAY or may not have also put some interests, languages and changed my ethnicity that was not true *Cough cough*..guilty as charged….but I am still the one behind the screen right? I am still real…but maybe not being as honest as I should…aint a good start to any relationship…

I talked to a few people..but the only one I almost met -some doctor from Melb- flaked at the last second…saying he was sick. I think it may have been due to the fact I invited two other people to join us for dinner (for our first meeting)….LOL yes I am super noob…I don’t do online dating remember ? Anyways,,, after that I was like screw this and deactivated the account.

Meeting people in real life is easier….or is it? Maybe it is for people that go out heaps…That enjoy partying, clubbing or whatever..but what about those introverts?

Those who hate loud music and don’t drink (or do drugs)! Also, they don’t really like meeting new people because it takes a lot of effort to make small talk.. and plus shy too. Yeah…fine… okay, people like me…to me…online dating feels safer,  I feel like I have more control…I get to find out a bit about these people online and ALSO you know that they are looking (most of the time) for a relationship too…and if they just want hookups-it’s usually written conveniently on their bio too..so you can swipe left for them -unless that’s what you want.

Suddenly you have an option to find the type of person you are looking for,  depending on what app.website you new using..it could be due to physical attributes (like height, ethnicity or body type..) or due to common interests… It’s interesting…because don’t you hate meeting someone new...and finding out that you have absolutely nothing in common and you don’t know what to talk about?

That’s me…I just…talk about the weather..yes lame..

ANYWAYS…to be honest, in my past relationships…at the start..it was always friendship and getting to know each other more online -through facebook messenger/watsapp/text a lot more than meeting up…

There is always a risk that you will get ghosted (ignored) by potential new connections..and it does hurt ..ALOT.. but if they ghosted you, it doesn’t reflect anything on you- it’s them with the problem…it is polite to let someone know if you aren’t interested instead of leading them on.

There is a risk of being cat-fished…I mean …people age right? Some people I know put photos of them 10 years earlier…when they were skinny and handsome…WHEREAS when they finally send a recent photo they are about three times wider around the middle, acquired glasses and lost some hair…YES u know what I mean..

In my opinion now..some tips on online dating (not that I am a pro)

If you are really serious about online dating, dare to be yourself. There is no point in trying to be someone else…because if you are there to meet your soul mate, don’t you want them to accept you for who you are and not what they think you are?

it is tiring pretending to be someone else that you aren’t. trust me… I learnt this the hard way.

They will eventually find out anyways!!

 

No point putting up a fake picture and then disappointing them when you meet up, if you don’t like being deceived , don’t do the same!

GO Dutch – don’t let one person pay for everything..esp on the first date ..because the person paying might feel like you are just there for a free meal…and the one receiving may feel obligated to be kind to them because they paid….I personally don’t like people I don’t know well paying for me…I’ve always been told by my mother..unless they are your boyfriend-never let them pay for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!SO yeah, go half and if it doesn’t work out, don’t need to feel bad for the =meal they paid for!

Not sure about you, but funny people are more approachable than people who seem too mean or serious.

I legit saw a bio where the guy was saying how he was still there because he still hadn’t found love…but he paid for 3 month subscription…it sounded like he had bad experience with online dating… he was like- no flakey people-no people who just want to be friends and aren’t looking for a relationship (wth-rood?) AND he also said that he wont pay for the first meal and that they will go dutch. I think he said at least THREE times that he only wants people who want serious relationships…

I think this dude is just too serious…man…you be scaring off and putting off any girl…I dunno…I felt like he was judging everyone else for being gold digging hoes or something…

Anyways,

In conclusion, while there are both pros and cons to the world of online dating- I do believe it is very useful for helping people meet other people that they normally wouldn’t in their normal circle of friends.
It is still very important to think about safety, privacy , and mannerisms when meeting people online for the first time, but with careful planning, research and getting to know the other person, I believe it can be a very rewarding experience. I think and hope in 10 years now, meeting people online will be the norm and not be stigmatised.

These are my own opinions and thoughts and I know everyone may have different views…

 

Joy and Peace to you and if you have any thoughts and opinions on online dating, please let me know below 🙂

 

Have a good day!

Life without screens

I know I blab on and on about technology, so bear with me as I explore further the topic of technology and society.

Recently it has just occurred to me, what did people do..before they had phones, laptops and televisions?

Recently at work, there was a young girl and I asked her, “What will Santa get you for Christmas this year?”

She said, “A new phone case”.

I was momentarily shocked… What does a seven year old kid need a mobile phone for ?!?! I never had a phone until I was well into my 10th grade of high school …or something like that..

It is a little bit sad, that the generation growing up now are going to be permanently joined to their phones.

There will be so many skills that they will not have to learn anymore, because the phone and the screens can do it all.

Gone are those navigational road map books…GPS is instant and probably MUCH more safer than looking through a book. To be honest, I can’t even read a map if I tried. My phone GPS didn’t work the other day and I realised, I had no idea what were the name of the roads I had driven upon…thousands of times… We have become so reliant on technology, we cannot even tell the time anymore…If we don’t have a watch, a phone or some other screen telling us what day or time it is.

Wouldn’t it be funny, or cool if a glitch in the internet moved everyone 1000 years into the future and everyone would have thought they time travelled because all the technology has left forward into the future?

I was waiting (semi-patiently) for someone to arrive the other day…I thought to myself, if I didn’t have a phone on me, what would I be doing instead? Back in the days…when people were waiting..did they bring books? Newspapers? Cassettes?

Or did they just sit there and pay attention to what was happening around them? Before lights were invented, did people just go to sleep earlier when the sun had set?

So many things to think about..

We can’t even travel properly without technology..it would take days and days of travel to get to Adelaide to Melbourne,…yet now we can get there and back within an hour.

Gone are the days we can do things by ourselves, spell, calculate, read maps ..because we have technology is there.

But can technology replace the doctor by your bedside? The robotic person answering your emergency without emotion? The one that sings autotuned at your wedding?

Anyways, apologies for this rambling post.

My new laptop recently locked me out and malfunctioned, so I had to wait around apple shop for two hours getting it reformatted. Oh dear God, cannot even write properly without my beloved laptop.

Laptop is back and running…! I am hoping it won’t happen again 😦 This is my portal to the world that helps me to share my ideas and thoughts to the world and plus I cannot spell without my autocorrect.

Love and Joy this Christmas Season to you

On Technology

So it has been a very long time since I last bought a new laptop..I am not sure when it was..but it was over 4 years ago anyways…I ve only had two laptops prior and both of them are pretty much dead. . ..

The latest one prior to my new laptop is actually a hand me down from my younger brother…who decided to build a PC to support him in his efforts to become the worlds best dota player..or something like that.

 

I am simply loving my laptop..its the newest MacBook Air that came out this year…It feels so light…so slick..so shiny…thinking back to my first splurge in the laptop industry.. it was also pink…a back then popular “Sony Vaio” ..It was so in then..and I am not sure how I managed to afford it as a kid…I remember it was like $1699 some insane price…I ve never been really good at investing in technology..and either I buy really expensive shitty stuff that looks great..or I don’t want to spend and buy pieces of crap that break easily..and hence I waste a lot of money.

Anyways, two years ago…after being an avid fan of Android phones…I suddenly decided to try an iPhone..it was hard…Get a nicer and newer Android phone or get a really old generation of I phone? I took the gamble..I am not one to run after the newest technology..I wait until it is cheaper and then I decide to spend.

SOOO long story cut extremely short, I got my first every apple product! An iPhone 5s in 2016. LOLS yes I know it is very very old. But, so am I.

Anyways, I fell in love with its simplicity… it’s effectiveness, no nonsense simple to use and understand technology. No fancy shit. Just what it is. It doesn’t try to be the best. It KNOWs its the best. It is not insecure. Its a secure piece of technology.

I am now riding on the cloud…the Apple cloud and it is hard to go back. It is so convenient that everything that I upload on the cloud has become so easily accessible through the cloud sky technology.

Another aspect that I have heard that is great about Apple, is that they do not sell your information and impede in your privacy..as google does..apparently.. Well, recently in the news apparently the secret services will start to have access to all our encrypted messages…that is scary… it is probably already happening, but we didn’t know it.

 

What happened to privacy? Do we go back to sending letters or does every letter get read in the post office? Who knows?

 

isn’t funny how technology has changed so much in the last 10-20 years?

We were talking about it at work the other day, a senior nurse was saying how she was one of the first people to have a mobile phone. Back in her uni days, she used to carry her mobile phone with her to lectures…and once it rang in the middle of the lecture and everyone was like …”What is that sound?”

It was her phone ringing…no one had a mobile back then. Apparently, it was like a brick…and it had a battery life of 2 hours..so you had to carry spare batteries to insert inside -once it died. Apparently, it did not last longer than a single lecture in class.

Funny how technology has changed so much….gone are those heavy bricks and now come in the super light, super battery efficient touch screen smart phones…

Soon it will be, phones? Whats that? You mean Iwatch!?>?! who needs a phone to hold, when you can speak into your watch?!!

We could have only imagined those in action here/sci fi movies 20 years ago. Funny how things have changed.

Key pads ? Whats that?

Do you have broadband? I believe it is do you have NBN now?

Back in the days we would ask each other for our phone numbers…or home phones..addresses!

 

Now all you do is look up their name stalkbook.com and you can add them as friend or message them.

Where was I going with all this?

Yes, technology is forever changing… if we don’t catch up …we will fall behind. While it is good to have skills in case technology fails..is it really worth all that time learning complicated maths formulas, algebra and theories when we can easily look it up online or plug it into some computer that is smarter than us? Should we use that time instead to advance society in other ways?

I heard pretty much every child and their dog has a phone, tablet and laptop now. Teachers assume kids have laptops and some even require them to have them in class. The world is changing, what was relevant and important years ago, is and may no longer be necessary. it is a scary, yet exciting time to be in.

As long as we remember that technology isn’t trying to replace us, but can help us, I don’t see why we can not just use it to our advantage. Use it to replace the pen and ink..and use  the keyboard to write poetry, fiction and writing. Use the computer to help you bring your artistic dreams to life. Use technology to connect with others online, keep in touch with loved ones and to create the future.

This sounds like an extended ad for Apple, but really it is not. It is just me fulfilling my promise to blog more when I got my new sexy laptop!

This laptop is waayyyy more faster than my brothers old brick…that lagged and didn’t work half the time 😦

So, I hope to be able to write more… 🙂 It feels so good to type on this thing. Things like a real type writer and the keys light up as I touch it…

but yeah seriously, I do not work for Apple.

Joy and Peace to you!