Random Rants: Generous Giving

 

Even as a child, I was always a giver. It was ingrained into me from a young age from my mother, “Why get fat by eating it all by yourself, when you can share it around and not be fat?”. With that mentality, I would share whatever snacks or food I had with others, I felt extremely uncomfortable to be the only one eating. If no one else was eating, I didn’t want to eat. It made me feel like a little selfish pig and gave me this really guilty feeling. I am not saying that is a healthy thing to have! Now, I am almost the opposite, I can’t stand the sound of people chewing or eating really loudly, it’s so off-putting and distracting. But I do still like to bring food to share and to give to others…

 

Not trying to say I am a saint or anything, but when I was younger I was sympathetic the beggars I saw on the street, despite not having money, I would try to give them something useful like food or a pocket hand warmer…  When I finally had a job in university, on my 22nd birthday, I remember signing up to sponsor a child in Africa who had the same birthday as me. Despite sponsoring her for many years and receiving the periodic update letters from her, I never responded to a single one. I was like an anonymous sponsee that never seemed to have time to write a letter to someone I didn’t know.

 

One day, my brother told me, instead of just throwing money to random organisations and where the money goes into paying for the staff working in the organisation in a place far away. What about instead of focussing on the people across the world, what about the people around you? This led me into a phase where I was trying to find the right place to volunteer and tried all these different places. I felt while the work I did there was alright for the moment, I felt there was so much more potentially that I could do.  There was so much I wanted to do, but so little time. I loved animals, I loved kids, I cared about the disadvantaged, people with disabilities, the medically sick…I wanted to go on medical mission trips across the world and help people in development countries, myself. That was my dream, I do still hope to do that someday. But reality hits, this all needs money. It doesn’t come for free…to get there I need to study hard to get into the degree, I need to get experience, and become qualified. I guess you can call it perhaps my calling in life for the desire to help others and to give.

It’s not always just about giving money, but thinking what can you actually DO and just to be kind to those around you, even if they are hard to love. Be wise with where you invest your money and time and don’t just throw it around blindly, also don’t just keep all the money for yourself!

How to help a Hoarder Part 2: Non-perishables

Welcome and thank you for coming back to Part two of How to help a hoarder: Non-perishables, click here for Part one. I believe this is an important area to discuss, I am not sure if it is the same as where you are…but every time when I go into supermarkets, usually the toilet paper aisle is empty, hand sanitiser, gloves, facemasks, etc are all gone. So why are people hoarding this stuff? I guess some are doing it because they are selfish, other want to take advantage of the situation and sell it for an inflated price on eBay, and some may be just doing a lot of sh*t? Anyways, here are some reasons and ways to stop hoarding so much!

  • Just have one good product for each of your beauty/hair products.
    That applies to things like sunscreens, moisturisers, toners, shampoo, conditioners, face wash!! What is the point having several hundred bottles of different facewashes, when you already have one good one? Do you have that many faces to use? If you haven’t even finished the one you are using, what is the point of buying another one? When I look at my bathroom…it is full of half-used, unused, and forgotten bottles of shampoos and conditioners 😦 ….and you know what the sad thing is? Every time my parents see it on sale, they go and buy another one!! Just use up what you have already and save space and time.
  • Don’t keep buying extra things, just because it’s on sale or convenient...
    I am super guilty of this…every time I go to a chemist, I used to buy another Systane eyedrop for my avid dry eyes, but I forgot that I already have bought some at home already! So yeah, no point doing that every time…just wait till you almost run out before buying it. 
  • Be considerate and think about other people who might need the products more than you.
    I am talking about toilet paper, hand sanitiser, cleaning products, masks….etc. Why do you need so much of it? Whenever I am tempted to buy something that is rare…I think to myself…do I really need it or do I just want it? Someone else might need it more than you…
  • Think carefully about buying online, because it’s usually a lot harder to return it!
    I hate buying clothes and shoes online, coz rarely does it fit…and be a lazy and time-poor bum, I am too lazy to return it or file a complaint. More often than not, the actual product doesn’t look like the professional pictures that you were provided with…Sometimes the shipping takes soooo long that you have forgotten that you bought it, and then buy another one, either in person or online.
  • Don’t buy something just because everyone else has it too.
    FOMO is real. I know. I feel you. I am seriously jealous about those who have a Nintendo Switch and playing animal crossing. But let’s be honest here, even if I did have one, I won’t make time or have any time to play anyway. It would just sit there and gather dust…so only buy what you really need and will actually use! Be it clothes, gym equipment, books, games, etc…Save your money and the planet!
  • Donate, recycle, or throw away things you don’t need anymore
    Be willing to get rid of things that are broken and don’t keep them just “Incase” something happens! You will end up with a lot of garbage… If something is still good, but it doesn’t fit you anymore, or suit you anymore…think about giving it someone else who might fit it or donate it to charity! You can also put in the recycle bin things that can be recycled and to be made into something else. Think of it like giving something a new reincarnation. But before you say goodbye to it, do as Marie Kondo suggests, and thank the object for serving its purpose, whatever it may be. My brain is fried. I ran out/forgot what I was going to write. Trying to do an assignment is due in two days. To me, it looks like polished and formatted garbage. It’s not my best work…but… mighty GODS above please let me pass. This is my last topic..and it would be horrendously sad if I failed now. T_T.

    Anyways, cheers to hoarding less, having more space in our homes, and more money in our banks!

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