Update: A New look & CoronaWorries

As you can see, I’ve been playing around with the blog a bit and even made a logo… I’ve paid for an actual website address! So you can now visit the site on www.howtoadultwithjoy.com  !! I hope to do more updates (now that most of outside work activities have been cancelled/postponed) and will and have been working on my book as well (More mentioned later)!

How is everyone doing with the Coronavirus? I’ve been touching base with family and friends all over the world and it seems that it has affected every single person I have spoken to so far…From Japan to Canada, and to Calfornia… The virus has spread all over the world…It is very much here in Australia as well, the number of new cases is rising steadily and in response, our governments have put in tough new measures to curb the virus. As mentioned last time, the social distancing continues to apply and just yesterday night the Prime Minister announced that all pubs, clubs, entertainment venues, gyms, indoor sporting places, and churches will be closed from midday today. This means basically I have no social life…because the only other thing I do besides work and study is exercise at the gym or play badminton. However, I have decided to use the time that I usually spend on exercise to do other things at home…such as working on my blog, planning my future book, and I have started playing the guitar again!! Having experienced ONE OK ROCK live in a concert…I am so motivated to learn and play their songs! It had been over a year since I played the guitar last…and at that time I really wanted to do a cover of the song ‘Yellow’ the Chinese version featured the movie ‘Crazy Rich Asians’.

I hope for everyone else that is in self-isolation (like my sister and her family who have just come home from Japan), will be able to work on those hobbies and things that they have put aside for so long! May you also learn some new skills! I have friends that are doing virtual gym classes online in their rooms and they said they had a good work out! There are many things we can learn and continue to do even at home. I guess now is a good time to be an introvert. :).

I’ve always thought I was an introvert that doesn’t like meeting up with other people and going out…but since these rules have been put into place, I have finally realised how much I miss going out and doing the things I am used to. May we take some time to reflect on where we are and what we hope to learn from this challenging time. I hope everyone can remember to keep in touch with each other and check up on your elderly/vulnerable friends and see if you can help them in any way. We are social distancing and that does not mean being socially isolated!

My thoughts go out to those who have lost their jobs or don’t have work for the next few months…I hope that you will be able to find another job and have adequate support over the next few months. I know my government is increasing the handouts for those who are doing it tough…and have decreased the requirements that are needed to qualify for those programs.

Also, on a side note, thank you for the 50 subscribers and having over 3000 visitors to this website! Thank you so much for visiting, reading, and being a part of this journey to adulthood.

I hope everyone stays safe, coughs into their elbows, and don’t go to work when you are sick!

 

Joy

Almost the end of 2019…

I think it’s time for a reflection.

Big things, small things, decisions… risks, investments..friendships, relationships, money, time, study, work, career….goals and dreams.

If only we were able to do it all and achieve it all… Sometimes you feel that one life-time is not enough. You feel like there is much to chase after, yet you also fail to appreciate what you have achieved already and what you have.

Sometimes I feel regret at what I sacrifice in order to get closer to what I want to achieve. I question myself, is it worth it? To be so driven towards something that gives you temporary joy when you achieve. I am somewhat afraid that when I finally reach the goals and final destination to where I want to go, I fear it won’t make me as happy as I had hoped.

This fear… will it stop me from trying? I think I will regret most not trying hard enough. But even though i am striving towards my goal…I am also trying to pursue my career goals… and then there’s my bucket list of things I wanna do before I am 30.

I think I am going through what I call a “one third of life crisis”. Not sure what I want, but everyone around me seems to me talking of marriage, getting married, having kids, buying houses… and then there’s me.. not sure what I want to do. I am sure I am not the only one who feels that way though… life is meant to be more simple than we make it. We complicate it by over thinking, by worrying about what hasn’t happened yet… or worrying that something will never happen.

FOMO is so real. I try to avoid it, aside from Linked In and a fake FB account.. I don’t go on social media. But even in the brief moments I have gone on these apps…I’ve managed to make myself feel bad.. I compared myself to this person because they got into medicine this year… oh and this one got a “Senior Pharmacist” position, even though I graduated first!! Or this one got into the hospital residency program…so much to compare myself to…you get my gist. I know I am supposed to feel grateful for where I am, so many would kill to be in my position..two well-paying jobs… good work place… mostly good colleagues…

But sometimes, your brain just shuts down and just wants to run away from it all and just have a break, before your break.

Random Rants: Regrets

Just got hit by a wave of regret today…

You know that feeling how you think you have it bad…but then you lose someone or something that had always been by your side and you regret taking them/that thing for granted? It could be a relationship, a beloved piece of clothing, or a job.

Maybe your mind might play tricks on you by making it seem better than it was, you remember all the good times and things that that they/it gave to you, but you forgot the way the relationship didn’t work, the item was not working as well as it once did, or the reasons why you left that job in the first place.

Alas, every end of something great can only open the door for things that are even greater.

You will meet someone or encounter something new that will blow your mind away… I guess in order to make room and time for something new, the old has to pass by.

But, it’s okay to feel sad, it’s okay to mourn for what you once had and lost. You don’t need to ‘cheer up’ or ‘look on the brighter side of things’…Because otherwise, you miss out on learning more valuable lessons.

Lessons about learning to take care of things more properly in the future, of not taking relationships or people for granted, and treasuring what is important to you most.

So, take your time, feel the regret, sadness, and loneliness. Embrace it. Fully. Let it do all it wants to. And then, embrace the next new thing.

 

 


 

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Is it Fate?

Do you believe in fate?

Do all things happen for a reason? Or are they just random happenings and it just happened to turn out some way or the other?

I mean is it fate that our parents decided to get married, have a kid, and then bam you are here?

I personally think all the things we think might be random help turns us into the people we are today. Our setbacks, our failures, our successes all happen for some great unknown reason. Perhaps to help build resilience, or to prepare us for something we didn’t expect coming.

Perhaps that random job we did back in our uni days will somehow be the stepping stone for the launch of our career that we really wanted… I think you sort of only reflect and appreciate all the things that happen in your journey when you look back retrospectively..and be like…oh I see.. I didn’t get that job…but in the end end I got this one, which I think is much more suitable for me!

Or…I hated this job..I quit…but I found something so much better and it helped me grow. It can be frustrating when we feel like the place that we are now is now where we want to be…but if we take it all in our stride..as seeing as a pathway to get to where we want to go, perhaps the journey won’t be as burdensome.

 

I think personally for me my journey is going into another direction and exciting things are yet to come..

 

All the best to us!

 

#randomramblingend

An ‘adult’ conversation?

Wow..I have updated in almost two weeks…it’s not that I didn’t want to update..its just that every time I sat down in front of my laptop…all the ideas that had popped into my head throughout the day was gone..

No motivation…Just didn’t feel like blogging.. It felt more like a chore than a hobby that I liked…

I tried on multiple days to write…but nope. Just nothing. Zilch. Nada.

I decided to take a break and today was the day I finally found some time to open this and write whatever is in my head. No plans.No crazy rants or ideas this time. Just writing about not being able to write.

I am not sure what’s wrong? Maybe it’s the weather? It’s rainy and dreary lately…no Sun…just feel like sleeping all the time and keeping warm.

I am sure its not just me, other people in the entertainment industry, artist, actors probably get to a point where they are like. Nope. Can’t force this anymore. Need a break.

Anyways, some good news to share with you.

I had what I would classify as an “Adult” conversation the other day! I was talking to a friend about how much we needed to save for a deposit on a house..I was showing her houses that I was interested in and the estimates for all the fees and levy’s we would have to pay. She pointed out that we were having a very “adult” conversation. A year ago I would not have been having such conversation…it would of been a much different one.

This allows me some time for some reflection…Things aren’t perfect right now, but I think they are alright. There is still things to do to make it better- as it will be for the rest of my life. But I am super grateful for how far I’ve come in this journey to become an adult. Whatever that is. 🙂

Thanks for following me on my journey 🙂

 

 

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