2021 Bucket List weekly progress

1. I went to a trial class to learn the Japanese instrument the Koto. I honestly was inspired to learn after accidentally stumbling across the track ‘Tenkyuu’ from the anime ‘Kono oto omare”. You should listen if you haven’t! If you know me, I get easily moved by music, anime, and art… and it really spurs me on to try and do different things. It was only a 30 minute lesson and I was nervous as hell, so much technique and quick thinking is needed. However, the music sheets are easier to read than I imagined! We go off numbers (Japanese numbers) and there are still 4 beats ro a bar. I love how music and magic seem to go hand in hand… I am excited for my next lesson on Saturday, but I need to think how I will practice?? I don’t own a koto… and renting one.. where am I going to put it ?? My studio apartment is tinyyyyyy 🥲🥲🥲…anyways, other costs that are involved is the picks that you need to put on your right thumb, right index, and right middle finger. These need to fit onto your fingers properly to allow the clear sound… I have to say the sound of the koto is as beautiful as it is through my phone. I feel like, I am entranced by the sound that comes through. It’s different to when I play the guitar, and I am mostly strumming to sing…

2. Post koto lesson, I decided to also start on another goal in my bucket list for this year. Ot learn to play a new sport…not really new, but I haven’t played in ages, I classify it is new. TABLE TENNIS. I bought my own racket guys! It is a small start?!?! Now to find a social to join to play…I’ll keep you posted… it was $45 for the racket and the rubbers. So basically, I asked for a beginners racket, and they said there are ones where they already have the rubbers stuck on , but its mostly for kids. The better ones and more expensive ones are the ones you buy the blade (wooden part) by itself and then you buy the rubbers separately. The rubbers are coloured red and black, apparently they MuSt be different colours, I wasn’t sure exactly why..?!?!? Some rule from table tennis?!!? Anyways, the dude in the shop was like I will stick the rubbers for you and also stick something on the sides and provide a clear film that you have to stick on the rubbers after you clean it after playing. I always see my mum having the plastic stuck on her rubbers, I always thought she just didn’t want to throw away the plastic 🤣 who knew she did it to protect her rubbers?!?!

Recipe for Burnout

Covid is a great excuse to become burnout in my opinion. Asides from work, I usually make time to go to the gym around 3 times a week for classes and try to play badminton 1-2 times a week. I would visit my elderly Aunt and Uncle whenever I had time and also visit my sister and her baby whenever I could. Due to Covid restrictions, badminton, gym, and social outings were gone from the calendar and I didn’t visit my aunt and uncle as much because I could be a risk to them. Take away all the things I did out of work, it just left me with work..and more work. Oh yeah, also study… I am almost finishing my graduate certificate in disability studies…

If anything, I had to work more hours, longer days without break. So of course, I am not a great machine that can keep going and going. I stopped working. Literally. Couldn’t work, because I had become so sick. Sick of the unpaid overtime, sick of not being able to say no to an extra shift because I felt guilty, sick of looking after sick people. It’s a real thing.. this vicarious trauma…

Due to the stress at work, I was so exhausted when I got home, but I would still force myself to do some work out. Gone were all the things that I had preached on this blog and to others… Healthy Eating habits? I craved and gave into KFC every time the migraines came back…I have never spent so much money on SNACKS and they aren’t all healthy snacks either :(. I have been so busy at work, I don’t even drink enough water because that would mean having to go to the toilet!! I am just overeating snacks… and it’s terrible! I’ve also been splurging on things I don’t necessarily need with my new credit card.. Oh..what I have done.

Anyways, I am not writing all this JUST to complain about my situation, because I know we have it pretty good in Australia. It will get better, I hope, because the situation is ever changing! Just as fast as we were put into restrictions, the restrictions are being lifted faster than I imagined too. Life will become better soon. But until then..Just keep fighting on, because it can only get better from now.  Take time to look after your mental health, have you done something just for you today?

Maybe, it’s okay, that I am acting the way I am now…As long as I realise that I can’t stay like that forever! Now that I am aware, I will be more conscious when I go pass KFC or purchase something I REALLY do not need.

Doubles Partner

Playing badminton can teach you about life.

Something that just occurred to me recently is, it is so important to find a good doubles partner for badminton/life.

In doubles, it is important that you can trust, communicate, and work well with the other person. If you don’t trust your partner, and they call a shot out-yet you don’t believe them…then you lose the point. Similarly, if you partner starts attacking from the back, the other person needs to know to move to cover the front of the court.

When things gets hard, as in you have been forced to do a lift which makes you susceptible to getting smashed by your opponents… you both have to take a side and defend the court. It would be incredibly hard if you you remained in a front and back formation as it would be hard to cover the whole court in that way.

If you did as drop shot, where the shuttlecock is really close to the net, you need to stay there and cover the next shot…in case they drop the shuttle back to you. It would be hard for your partner to run straight to the front of the court to cover the shot…

A good partner would encourage you to play and do better. Someone who gets angry easily and stops communicating is hard to play with…similarly if they don’t communicate saying “Yours” or “Mine”…there will be chances that clashes of racquets could happen.

Small things like high fiving after a good shot or praising, encouraging your partner is important. It may sound like nothing, but these small amounts of encouragement help to boost morale and lifts the team spirit.

Post game…win or loss…it’s important to keep the communication open…it can be hard after a loss not to blame the other person…but it’s good to thank them for playing and say the usual ‘We’ll do better next time’.

With these types of attitudes and learnings, I think it can be applicable and generalisable to all types of relationships with people you may have. Whether in family situations, work situations, friendships…and romantic relationships..